Do we Need a National Grief Day Really?
National Grief Day? Are you kidding me? Do we really need a day set aside for Grief in the world we live in today? I would argue yes.
One reason is because, honestly, I feel our country is grieving. What are we grieving? Well, considering there is so many changes daily to what is going on with the pandemic, not to mention what is happening over in Afghanistan, from where I sit, I believe this country is no longer what it was. Will we ever get back? My heart wants to think so, but my head says no, so it is a loss and we are all experiencing it.
Which brings me to my next point. We will all see loss of a person, thing, or situation differently. We will feel it differently and we will experience it differently, which means we will grieve in our OWN WAYS.
Grief is funny. There really are no rules on how to grieve. No step by step guide. No time line. No do’s and don’ts. The only common denominator is someone or something was lost, and with that loss comes a void.
It might be the loss of a person, job, friend, someone moves, someone leaves, a diagnosis that causes your life to change, or a tragedy that changes your lifestyle. Whatever it is, the list can go on and on. The overarching theme remains, something is gone or different and will never be the same. That void, no matter how great or small, will effect each person differently.
Some people are lucky and adjust easily, for others it takes time and that timeline is different for everyone. Adjusting to a new way of life without someone, or a new routine is awkward and can be triggering. But, the good news is, over time a person will become better equipped to deal with the triggers. How much time, again, is anyone’s guess.
There are seven stages to grief and, like I said before, some will get through these stages quicker than others.
Shock and denial….disbelief and numbed feelings
Pain and guilt
Anger and bargaining
Depression
The Upward turn
Reconstruction and working through it
Acceptance and Hope